I Must Not Be A Real Pastor

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23 Truths That Validate Your Call

Table of Contents

 

Prologue

Doubt # 1

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Get So Frustrated at Simple Matters in The Church

Doubt # 2

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Want to Skip Church

Doubt # 3

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Know How Long to Stay at The Funeral Home/Graveside

Doubt # 4

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Know Whether or Not to Call Someone At 5am After Finding Out A Loved One Passed Away At 2

Doubt # 5

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Want to Make and Receive Phone Calls from Parishioners Instead of Dodging Them

Doubt # 6

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Want to Spend More Time at Their Favorite Restaurant Than at The Church

Doubt # 7

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Face Each Day With “Gusto” For “Doing the Lord’s Work” Instead of Waking Up Each Morning Ready for A Nap

Doubt # 8

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Be Disappointed in Not Receiving an Honorarium for A Wedding/Funeral, Etc

Doubt # 9

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Never Hope to See Someone Missing from Church on Sunday

Doubt # 10

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Be Susceptible to Being Lied About

Doubt # 11

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Know When They Are Being Lied To

Doubt # 12

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Easily Be Able to Inspire Folks to Volunteer in the Church

Doubt # 13

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Suffer from Nit-Picking Illnesses That Seem to Be Due, At Least In Part, To the Nuances of the Job

Doubt # 14

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Need Emotional-Health Medications

Doubt # 15

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Battle Discouragement Day-After-Day, Week-After-Week, Month-After-Month … Minute-After-Minute … Second-After-Second

Doubt # 16

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Spew the Occasional “Unclean” Word

Doubt # 17

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Be Bothered by a Lack of Financial Stability or Retirement Reserves

Doubt # 18

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Need to Have More of Their Friends “Being There” When They’re in Crisis

Doubt # 19

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Feel Isolated from Everyone; Friends, Fellow Ministers, And Denominational Leaders

Doubt # 20

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Get Upset at Themselves If They Could Not Meet Every Need of The Church

Doubt # 21

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Not Get Upset at Themselves If They Could Not Meet Every Need of Their Family

Doubt # 22

I Must Not Be A Real Pastor Because A Real Pastor Would Instinctively Know How to Incorporate People of Differing Socio-Economic, Cultural, And Racial Backgrounds into The Church

Truth # 23

You Are Not in Control of the Results!

 

Epilogue

 

The Very Last Word is Always God’s


Prologue

Being a Pastor is a big deal!

It is supposed to be.

Because it is, the devil takes great pleasure in trying to minimize our effectiveness. And he does a great deal of that work inside our own mind and spirit.

When I was a classroom teacher, once I finished college and started in my own classroom, I was amazed by what college had not prepared me for. I literally did not know what I did not know. My first year of teaching, and probably my first several years, was spent just trying to figure out what questions I needed to ask of my peers and administrators in order to do my job well.

After many years in the classroom I entered into the ministry full-time. And after several years on church staffs, I moved into the Pastorate. And guess what? I found myself right back at that same point. Not even knowing what I did not know!

While I had not had full seminary training, I had been raised in the church, in a pastor’s home as a matter of fact. And my Bachelor’s Degree, although in Education, was received at a Christian University. Many of my elective classes were in ministry or theology. Plus I had spent almost 10 years serving on a church staff.

But just as with education, the classroom did not prepare me for the job. It prepared me for the book knowledge needed for the job. But it did not prepare me to do the job. And neither did time spent on staff. Oh, it helped a little. But it was not the same. And, boy, it did not prepare me for the struggles and the attacks of the enemy.

So I spent the first years of pastoring just trying to figure out what to do, how to do it, and being a near-constant victim of  “See there, you’re not a real pastor because a real pastor would have …” from the devil. Either I am the only person who ever experienced these kinds of things (which the enemy says I am) and thus this book will help no one except, maybe, myself; or I am not alone among those on whom the devil uses this tactic. Which I think may be more the truth.

For that reason, I decided to write this book.

As you will see, some of these things are quite serious, while others may even seem to be a bit absurd. But that is what happens when the enemy battles you. He does not play fair. He will use the Bible against you. And he’ll try to get you so tired from the serious, that you have no stamina left so that the absurd becomes the tipping point. It certainly almost was the case for me. I hope that those reading will realize that they are not the first to have those kinds of doubts and feelings. And that they will find some helpful advice for handling these kinds of attacks that purpose to keep us from being effective in ministry, and in some cases, threaten to drive us from the ministry completely.

You will likely see one common theme amongst these items – STRESS. We all know stress can be a killer. All kinds of health conditions can be caused by stress. From heart disease, to asthma, to obesity; all kinds of health issues are widely reported to either be caused by or made worse by stress. This list also includes diabetes, depression and anxiety, gastrointestinal problems and Alzheimer's disease. Stress can affect how you age and possibly lead to premature death. I have even heard that it can cause the same kind of damage to brain cells as binge drinking.

It is nice of medical research to finally catch up to the Bible. Jesus Himself told us all of this in Luke 21:34 – Be careful not to spend your time having parties and getting drunk or worrying about this life. If you do that, you won’t be able to think straight, and the end might come when you are not ready. It is interesting that stress can cause the same kind of problems that excessive partying (the KJV uses the word surfeiting, others say carousing) and drunkenness can. In case you are wondering, surfeiting means indulging in one's appetites excessively. It could be food or drink or many other things such as any habit that can be abused.

It is also interesting that gluttony and drunkenness are both sins, which would suggest “worrying about this life, or “stressing out” about it is a sin too. The devil would obviously love it if all of God’s ministers had a sin problem, so he gets us to participate in one that most of us would not even see as one. And it is a sin that can cause all manner of health issues, thus limiting our effectiveness in ministry. As my Mom used to sing, “The devil is a sly ole’ fox”.


From the Back Cover

Being a Pastor is a big deal! It is supposed to be. Because it is, the devil takes great pleasure in trying to minimize our effectiveness. And he does a great deal of that work inside our own mind and spirit.

The purpose of this book is to share some of our experiences in hopes that some of the problems we faced can help others in similar situations to know that they are not “the only ones”. We also hope that church members may gain some insights into their pastor and the struggles he or she faces.

The picture we hope we paint for you is that you are not the problem. The people of your church are not the problem. But the devil wants to use the people of your church to make you think you’re the problem, so he can thwart whatever good God is doing through you.

And God is using you. You are doing some good. You are making a difference. You are a real pastor.

We hope and pray that you receive a blessing from the Lord through this work. Be on the lookout for our next book.


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